Comments for Adam Denker

Comment on Seeing Myself in Others by Ron

Ron — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 20:50:42 +0000

I’ve done that too. I think it’s just hard to see yourself in other people. Especially if it’s the negative stuff.

If you really feel the need to talk to the guy, you could just tell him what you have been through. And let him know that you see the same thing in him doing the same things you did.

A little “tough love” never hurt anyone.

Comment on Crawling Up from the Muck of Despair by adamdenker

adamdenker — Sun, 20 Jul 2008 20:45:30 +0000

Thank you Ron and Econmommy! I appreciate the comments and the support! I was about to give up on the blog because I didn’t think there was much interest, but I think I will plug on now!

Comment on Crawling Up from the Muck of Despair by econmommy

econmommy — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 18:44:19 +0000

Yes, I relate. Before we can move on, we must heal from our past mistakes, not just simply “move on”. Otherwise, the garbage just continues to fester. Self-reflection and total honesty is not easy, but necessary…

Comment on Crawling Up from the Muck of Despair by Ron

Ron — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 15:14:50 +0000

I tried to respond to this yesterday and it didn’t work for some reason.

I wanted to let you know that I totally relate. I didn’t deal with my issues with drugs, but other than that we seem to have very similar backgrounds. I totally hear you and know where you’re coming from.

No real words of wisdom here, just a kindred spirit.

Comment on Crawling Up from the Muck of Despair by Ron

Ron — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 19:59:29 +0000

I just came across your blog today while doing searches on depression and PTSD. I have just been recently diagnosed with both due to sexual abuse and a family who did nothing about it. Your blog sounds pretty close to a lot of things that I have gone through.

I’m new to all of this being out in the open and the therapy and medication but I’m gettin through it sometimes one hour at a time.

I totally relate to what you said, I have a habit of self destruction when it comes to money, jobs, and life actually. I was just hospitalized for two weeks, including 5 days in ICU because of a suicide attempt.

I hope you don’t mind that I’ve added you to my blogroll and that I’ll be a visitor to your blog.

Comment on I am Ultimately Responsible for My Life, Despite Their Abuse by Tia

Tia — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 15:14:18 +0000

dang. I recently wrote something so totally similar to this one it’s scarey.

Then again, I guess the lesson is that we’re not unique when it comes to abuse and addictions etc., and that’s why all of the “whatever anonymous” groups work so well.

Thank you for sharing Adam.

Comment on Empathy Defecit Disorder? by adamdenker

adamdenker — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 02:33:16 +0000

I probably wasnt clear. I DO believe that this is a genuine disorder. I just think that too often, people create disorders to explain all kinds of irresponsible or hurtful behavior. In this case, however, I think it is a real disorder.

Comment on Empathy Defecit Disorder? by 4wrdthnkndad

4wrdthnkndad — Sat, 21 Jun 2008 01:26:07 +0000

While I “empathize” with many of your observations, I do believe there are adults incapable of being empathic towards another human being. Granted, it is hard to imagine what percentage of the population may fit this category, I can see how it could be classified as a disorder. Historically, I think a lack of empathy has been lumped in as a characteristic of other disorders. Because I believe it is safe to assume that there are many killers, robbers, and criminals who are incapable of experiencing empathy towards the victims of their crimes. I would be curious to hear what the criteria are for this diagnosis. As for recovery, I suspect the ones who are unable to do a moral inventory, and recognize moments where there alcohol contributed to pain or injury caused to others could struggle with achieving and sustaining sobriety.

Comment on Empathy Defecit Disorder? by blouie2

blouie2 — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 16:15:43 +0000

you honesty and insight about yourself reveal some real searching. i have a problem on the other side of the spectrum of empathy. i’ve often wondered if a person with a lack of empathy could change, or if an extermely self centered person could snap out of it. sounds like your doing good work.
blouie2

Comment on School Shootings, Bullying, and Indifference by adamdenker

adamdenker — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 05:17:48 +0000

Lucien- you make good points and I skipped over the point about violent games. The primary cause is the bullying and the abuse.

However, I think the desensitizing effect of a constant exposure to violent games and programs can contribute. I wouldn’t blame it solely or primarily for school violence, but I think it can make people less immune to the negative effects.

I agree that the person interviewed was using it as an excuse. It is a shame ABC chose not to interview someone who better epitomizes the victims of endless abuse who turn to shooting when pushed over the edge.

Thank you for your comment!